I love and appreciate this. Thank you for writing it, Nicole.
And I chose “Othered” as the book title early on, but knew for sure it was the title I needed to fight for because I watched one survivor/advocate actually say to another survivor “You deserve to heal but you are ‘other’ and need to heal somewhere else.” They did essentially what you’re saying here, and it was heartbreaking because I saw it for what it was, but no one dared to challenge the statement.
Man if I've learned anything over these last few years it's that none of our healing will look the same, so we can either divide further because of that or find unity in our shared wounds and the sacredness found in them. It enrages me to no end when that sacredness is spat on or rejected by those who should know best. Thank you so much for your words and work that continue to fight for that sacredness in us all.
This is really good. In my head cannon the two ends of the spiritual abuse response spectrum are fawning emulators and the parentified and I think a "pick me" might be just about middle of the road. Brilliant.
I love and appreciate this. Thank you for writing it, Nicole.
And I chose “Othered” as the book title early on, but knew for sure it was the title I needed to fight for because I watched one survivor/advocate actually say to another survivor “You deserve to heal but you are ‘other’ and need to heal somewhere else.” They did essentially what you’re saying here, and it was heartbreaking because I saw it for what it was, but no one dared to challenge the statement.
Man if I've learned anything over these last few years it's that none of our healing will look the same, so we can either divide further because of that or find unity in our shared wounds and the sacredness found in them. It enrages me to no end when that sacredness is spat on or rejected by those who should know best. Thank you so much for your words and work that continue to fight for that sacredness in us all.
This is really good. In my head cannon the two ends of the spiritual abuse response spectrum are fawning emulators and the parentified and I think a "pick me" might be just about middle of the road. Brilliant.